周末晨讀：培養同理心是教導孩子尊重他人的一門必修課

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友課MBA加油站英語晨讀

Empathy: Teaching Kids to Value Others

培養同理心是教導孩子尊重他人的一門必修課

Empathy is one of those strange qualities – something almost everyone wants, but few know how to truly give or receive it. In a world where self-gratification is emphasized, it is in short supply but high demand. This is all the more reason to teach the next generation what it means to have empathy for those around them.

empathy/'empəθɪ/ n. 同理心

self-gratification/'self,ɡrætifi'keiʃən/ n. 自我滿足

同理心是許多人都很陌生的品質——每個人都想獲得，但是幾乎沒有人知道如何真正去給予或是得到它。

我們所處的社會，人人強調自我滿足，是一種供小於求的狀態。

這就是我們為什麼要教導我們的下一代擁有同理心的主要原因。

What Is Empathy? Many people confuse sympathy and empathy, but they are two distinct values. Empathy is not just the ability to understand someone’s feelings; criminals often take advantage of people by appearing to understand their feelings and subsequently gaining their trust. Empathy is more than that. Not only is it the ability to recognize how someone feels, but it also values and respects the feelings of another person. It means treating others with kindness, dignity, and understanding.

什麼是同理心？很多人都會把同情心和同理心弄混淆，其實它們是兩種截然不同的價值觀。

同理心不僅是一種可以體會他人感受的能力。

罪犯常常就是利用表現出讓他人產生共鳴的感情來獲取信任。

它的作用還遠不止如此。

它不僅要識別一個人作何感受， 而且也要重視尊重其他人的感受。

這就意味著要善待他人、尊重他人、理解他人。

Kids Need To See Adults Show Empathy--- While some children are gifted with naturally kind hearts, in most cases kids need to see empathy modeled by the adults around them. It begins with the way parents relate to their children. Parents who show an interest in the things that matter to their kids and respond to emotions in a positive and caring way are teaching the skill of empathy.

大人們需要在孩子面前表現出這種同理心---雖然有些孩子天生就有善良的心靈，但在大多數情況下，孩子需要看到周圍成年人的同理心。

這就要從父母和孩子的相處開始。

那些對和孩子相關的事情表示感興趣並且能夠以積極、關懷的方式給予回應的父母往往就是在傳授孩子如何擁有同理心的技巧。

Meet Emotional Needs---When children have their emotional needs met, two things happen. They learn how to meet the emotional needs of others and they are anchored in what they are receiving, meaning that they are secure enough to give to others when the need arises but first they need to receive. An empty jug cannot fill a cup.

anchor/'æŋkə/ v. 使固定

jug/dʒʌg/ n. 水壺，罐子

滿足情感需求---當孩子們的情感需求得到滿足時，會發生兩件事。

他們學習如何滿足他人的情感需求，他們被固定在他們所接受的東西上，這意味著當需要的時候，他們有足夠的安全感可以給予他人，但他們首先要學會接受。

一個空罐子裝不滿一個杯子。

Talk To Kids About Emotional Needs---Many adults find it hard to talk about emotional needs or anything related to emotions. Consequently, they spend their lives tiptoeing around the subject of emotions. These are people who don』t know how to handle the emotions of others and are uncomfortable with any situation that calls for an emotional response. Sometimes they are afraid of their own emotions because they have never learned how to deal with emotional needs.

tiptoe around繞開，避而不談

和孩子多溝通情感需求---許多成年人（家長）發現很難和孩子們談論情感需求或任何與情感相關的事情。

因此，他們在生活中都會小心翼翼地繞過情緒這個話題。

這些人不知道如何處理他人的情緒，對任何需要情緒反應的情況都感到不舒服。

有時他們害怕自己的情緒，因為他們從來沒有學會如何處理情感訴求。

It’s a good idea to talk to kids about emotions and how other people experience them. Give their emotions names (for example, jealousy, anger, and love) and teach them that these are normal. Talk to them about how to handle emotions in a positive way and point out situations where other people are experiencing emotions. Teach them about respecting the emotions of others and show them how to act in a situation where a response is required.

和孩子談論情緒以及分享其他人的感受是個好主意。

為他們的情緒命名，例如嫉妒、生氣、愛，並且教導他們那些都很正常。

和她們探討關於如何積極地面對情緒並指出什麼情況下人們會有情緒。

告訴他們要尊重有情緒的人，並且為他們示範在需要做出回應的情形下如何採取行動。

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