Frenemy - Wikipedia

"Frenemy" (also spelled "frienemy") is an oxymoron and a portmanteau of "friend" and "enemy" that refers to "a person with whom one is friendly, despite a ... Frenemy FromWikipedia,thefreeencyclopedia Jumptonavigation Jumptosearch Typeoffriendandenemy "Frenemies"redirectshere.Forotheruses,seeFrenemies(disambiguation). "BadFriend"redirectshere.FortheRinaSawayamasong,seeBadFriend(song). "Frenemy"(alsospelled"frienemy")isanoxymoronandaportmanteauof"friend"and"enemy"thatrefersto"apersonwithwhomoneisfriendly,despiteafundamentaldislikeorrivalry"or"apersonwhocombinesthecharacteristicsofafriendandanenemy".[1]Thetermisusedtodescribepersonal,geopoliticalandcommercialrelationshipsbothamongindividualsandgroupsorinstitutions.Thistermalsodescribesacompetitivefriendship. Contents 1History 2People 3Types 4Seealso 5References 6Externallinks History[edit] LookupfrenemyinWiktionary,thefreedictionary. "Frenemy"appearedinprintasearlyas1953[2]inanarticletitled"Howz[sic]aboutcallingtheRussiansourFrienemies?"bytheAmericangossipcolumnistWalterWinchellintheNevadaStateJournal[3][4] TheAmerican-basedauthorandactivistJessicaMitfordclaimedin1977thatthewordwascoinedbyoneofhersisters:"...anincrediblyusefulword…coinedbyoneofmysisterswhenshewasasmallchildtodescribearatherdulllittlegirlwholivednearus.Mysisterandthefrenemyplayedtogetherconstantly…allthetimedislikingeachotherheartily."[5] Fromthemid-1990situnderwentamassiveincreaseinusage.[6] People[edit] ABusinessweekarticlestatedthatfrenemiesintheworkplacearecommon,eveninbusinesstobusinesspartnerships.[7]Duetoincreasinglyinformalenvironmentsandthe"abundanceofveryclose,intertwinedrelationshipsthatbridgepeople'sprofessionalandpersonallives...[while]itcertainlywasn'tunheardofforpeopletosocializewithcolleaguesinthepast,thesheeramountoftimethatpeoplespendatworknowhasleftalotofpeoplewithlesstimeandinclinationtodevelopfriendshipsoutsideoftheoffice."[8] Professionalrelationshipsaresuccessfulwhentwoormorebusinesspartnerscometogetherandbenefitfromoneanother,butpersonalrelationshipsrequiremorecommoninterestsoutsideofbusiness.Relationshipsintheworkplace,inasportsclub,oranyplacethatinvolvesperformancecomparing,formbecauseofthecommonalitiesbetweenpersons.Duetotheintenseenvironment,competitivenesscanevolveintoenvyandstrainarelationship.Frenemytyperelationshipsbecomeroutineandcommonbecauseofthesharedinterestofbusinessdealingsorcompetition.[citationneeded] SigmundFreudsaidofhimselfthat"anintimatefriendandahatedenemyhavealwaysbeenindispensabletomyemotionallife…notinfrequently…friendandenemyhavecoincidedinthesameperson".[9] Types[edit] Frenemiescanbedividedintodifferentcategoriesbasedontheirbehaviors:[10][11][12] One-sidedfrenemy:Apersonreacheswhooutormeetsanotherpersononlywhenhelporafavorisneededcanbeconsideredaone-sidedfrenemytothelatterperson,whodoesnotcareaboutthelifeoftheotherpersonandhasnointerestinwhatisgoingon.Onealsodoesnotshowupintimetomeettheother'sneedandsoitisaone-sidedrelationship. Unfiltered/Underminingfrenemy:Thistypeoffrenemyinsults,makesfunof,andcrackssarcasticjokesaboutthefriendsofrequentlythatitgetshardtotolerate.Also,secretsaredisclosedinpublic. Over-involvedfrenemy:Thiskindoffrenemygetsinvolvedinthefriend'slifeinwaysthatthefriendmightnotapproveof.Theyreachouttotheirfamily,friends,orsignificantothersininappropriatewayswithouttheirpermissiontofindsomethingout.Theirover-involvementoftenbothersandirritatesthefriend. Competitiveworkfrenemy:Thiskindoffrenemyisacompetitortooneperson.Sincetheyworkinthesameplaceorarea,theybehavewell,makecompliments,andactaswell-wishers,butinreality,theyneverwantsomethinggoodtohappentotheother.Theyneverwanttheothertobecomemoresuccessful. Ambivalentfrenemy:Thiskindoffrenemyhasbothpositiveandnegativequalities.Sometimes,theycanbehelpfulandpolite,butsometimes,theyalsoactinaselfishorcompetitiveway. Jealousfrenemy:Jealousycanturnfriendsintofrenemies.Apersonmaybecomejealousoftheirfriendsbecauseoftheirraise,success,beauty,personality,humor,orsocialstatus. Unsurefrenemy:Someonewhodoesnotknowexactlythestatusorclosenessoftheirfriendshipmay,forexample,notbesureaboutbeinglikedbytheotherperson,whetherarerealfriendsorjustbusinessfriends,oriftheywillconsiderinvitingthemtofamilyprograms. Passive-aggressivefrenemy:Theymakemeanremarksandgivebackhandcomplimentsbutneverdirectlytotheother'sface.Theycanleaveapersonfeelingconfusedaboutwhethertheyhavedonesomethingwrong.[13] Seealso[edit] Competition Theenemyofmyenemyismyfriend Promotingadversaries Love–haterelationship References[edit] ^"frenemy,n."OxfordEnglishDictionary.RetrievedOctober7,2019. ^Rodgers,Nichole(March4,2011)."'Frenemies'and'Bromances':WhoGenderedFriendship?".HuffPost.RetrievedOctober7,2019. ^Cavendish,Lucy(January17,2011)."Thebestoffrenemies".TheDailyTelegraph.RetrievedOctober7,2019. ^OxfordEnglishDictionaryonline:https://www.oed.com/viewdictionaryentry/Entry/273014 ^Mitford,Jessica(2010).PoisonPenmanship:TheGentleArtofMuckraking.NewYorkReviewBooks.p. 218.ISBN 9781590175293.RetrievedOctober7,2019. ^"GoogleNgramViewer".books.google.com.RetrievedApril1,2019. ^Jap,Sandy(2017)."AreYourPartnersFriendsorFrenemies?".AMA.org.ArchivedfromtheoriginalonFebruary9,2019. ^FrenemiesatWork,LizRyan,BusinessWeek,June14,2007. ^QuotedinErnestJones,TheLifeandWorkofSigmundFreud(1964)p.37 ^"BehindFrenemyLines".PsychologyToday.RetrievedApril24,2019. ^"The3TypesofFrenemies".PsychologyToday.RetrievedApril24,2019. ^Edwards,VanessaVan(April7,2017)."TheScienceofFrenemies".Medium.RetrievedApril24,2019. ^Clarke,Katrina(April8,2017)."Fivetypesoffrenemiesandthesignsthatyouhaveone".CBCNews.CBCNews.RetrievedOctober7,2019. Externallinks[edit] LookupfrenemyinWiktionary,thefreedictionary. 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